Compulsive Behaviors Counseling

You can break free from addictive and compulsive behaviors.

“The freedom question, then, is not whether we can do whatever we want, but whether we can do what we most deeply want.”

Gerald May, M.D. The Awakened Heart

We are here to help.

If you are reading this page, there’s a good chance that you or someone you care about is caught in the grip of a compulsive or addictive behavior. Maybe it’s pornography, a sex or love addiction, eating, dieting, shopping, online behaviors, or working compulsively. Restoring the Soul is here to help.

Woman sketching a business plan on a placard at a creative office

Some of the issues we can help with

Pornography & sexual addiction

Co-dependence & love addiction

Shopping or compulsive spending

Compulsive eating, dieting, exercise

Online or phone addictions

Workaholism and drivenness


What does compulsive behavior look like?

Maybe this cycle is familiar to you: your passion, energy, and attention swings like a pendulum. First, you swing toward the familiar object of your addiction. It's so irresistible that despite your previous resolve, you give in. Then, you swing back to relying on your willpower and hope that this time was the last time. Back and forth it goes. Lather, rinse, repeat.

If you can relate, you’re not alone. Consider the words of St. Paul: “What I don’t understand about myself is that I decide one way, but then I act another, doing things I absolutely despise. It happens so regularly that it’s predictable.”

The good news is that real freedom is possible. When willpower and resistance aren’t enough, the Restoring the Soul approach offers a different path leading to freedom from compulsive and addictive behaviors.

Getting to the struggle beneath the struggle

Intensives at Restoring the Soul get to the problem beneath the problem and the struggle beneath the struggle. Instead of settling for mere behavioral change (which invariably leads back to relapse), our approach addresses compulsive behaviors at the root of the problem—a combination of insufficient attachment/relational bonding, wounding, and handling subsequent pain and brokenness in counterproductive ways.

“Not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma, but I do believe they can all be traced to painful experience. A hurt is at the center of all addictive behaviors. It is present in the gambler, the internet addict, the compulsive shopper, and the workaholic.”

Gabor Mate, M.D.

By addressing underlying trauma and attachment wounds—those places we’ve not been seen, soothed, safe, and secure—clients are able to develop healthy attachments with themselves, others, and God.

*Our soul care intensives are not a substitute for drug or alcohol rehabilitation.

Find a path forward in as little as two weeks.